Little Pandemic Story #349

I admire my little belly now, because I put a lot of work into it.

The house is untidy now after all the projects

Foisted on the wild, silent kids. Captives

With the pets who tolerate us, accepting without question (as long as they’re fed)

Why we never leave.

creative non-fiction

Pandemic Fruit Salad

I crumbled a stale fortune cookie I found on the counter onto my fruit salad. I call it “winter white fruit salad” because it’s mostly pears and bananas, but I hacked a pale kiwi into angular slices and added a cut up orange at the last minute so the citrus juice would keep the pear chunks from browning. The pears look so pale and tragic — even when I leave the skins on.

I pretend I don’t care what the fortunes in the cookies say anymore — like I’m too old to care. Even when I say “in bed” at the end of every fortune, I stifle my chuckle.

I ate the whole bowl of wet, cold fruit with a little fork, and couldn’t even tell the cookie parts from the fruit. Just like every day during this strange, strange time.

creative non-fiction

Little Pandemic Story #199

We’ve reached the stage of the pandemic where we now have about 266 plastic take-out food containers stacked up in the pantry. My fervent hope is that one day we’ll have a big party with a lot of left-overs so I can distribute them in those containers as party favors. Or maybe I’ll do some serious holiday cookie baking and fill them as tasty gifts? The point is to repurpose them and get them out into the world to spread something good.

I took my very old, ratty sweatshirt with holes along the seams and ripped it into rags, like my grandmother used to do. I used the remnant of a sleeve to polish an old silver platter repurposed to hold odds & ends on my dresser. I could see it was very tarnished because it’s mostly empty these days because all my odds & ends aren’t going anywhere either. They remain nestled in their proper places. I open my closet and realized that I didn’t even wear the summer clothes hanging there. Another season suspended. But I pack them up and hang the fall/winter clothes in their place.

We have a tank of six goldfish who are eight years old. I think at least three of them are depressed because they are hanging out at the bottom of the tank on the rocks for extended periods of time. Or maybe they have always done that and I never paid as much attention as I have these last few months. But the three bottom dwellers seem to be supporting each other. It lifts my heart to see kindness in the fish tank –even if I’m anthropomorphizing a bit. I brace myself for the worst outcome.

The darkening of the days’ fringe is more pronounced now. I take a flashlight when I move the garbage cans to the curb on Monday nights. The leaves make more noise in the dark, and I imagine the things I can’t see. But do you feel it too, don’t you? There’s a change in the air.


Don’t Just Stand There

There is a social-psychological phenomenon called “The Bystander Effect.”  Back in 1964 the country was rocked by the story of the murder of Kitty Genovese, a Queens, NY woman who was assaulted and killed in her neighborhood as she returned from work late at night.  Her neighbors supposedly heard and were aware of the attack , but did not come to her aid or call the police. The phrase, ” I didn’t want to get involved.”  began to circulate as code for making the choice to turn away from responding to an incident (or emergency) in a social setting.

This provoked social scientists to study why individuals in groups would behave this way, and they came up with a theory involving the diffusion of responsibility in a group, or social setting. The researchers boiled down five cognitive and behavioral responses that bystanders go through during an “emergency.”

  1. They notice that something is occurring.
  2. Then they make an interpretation: Is what I’m seeing an “emergency?”
  3. Third, they assess their degree of responsibility.  A single person viewing an emergency is more likely to take action — i.e. the Good Samaritan.
  4. Fourth, they consider their forms, or options, to render assistance — should they get directly involved or indirectly involved (like calling 911)?
  5. And fifth, they implement the action.

When there is a large group of people viewing an emergency there is a tendency for an individual to think that somebody else has already performed some action, or there is somebody else more qualified to assist, like a first responder or a healthcare professional. We all know the story of the Good Samaritan who helps a stranger in need, but there is a tendency in large groups of bystanders for any one individual to think that somebody else either has responded or will respond to a person in distress.  They “diffuse” the emergency over the group and will not offer aid, thinking that somebody else has, or will, get involved.  

For a long time I have had the feeling that we are a country of bystanders.  Please do not take offense.  Everyone is so busy with his/her/their own day-to-day life full of obligations that assessing what we’re watching unfold nationally takes a lot of energy.  But in the last six months I sense a shift in the collective American consciousness.  It is an emergency when Black men and women are being killed by police.  It is an emergency when a global pandemic is killing people of all ages (POC at an even greater rate) and showing the economic fault lines of hunger, poverty and access to care and education.  These events are in front of us daily even if you don’t watch the news or spend time on social media.  

But who am I, you say?  I’m a random blogger among millions.  I’m just a woman who was born at the start of a volatile decade of U.S. history.  A women who heard a lot of rhetoric about equality from an early age, but is still confronted by the sorry match of reality to that rhetoric.  Things haven’t changed that much and it has been a long, slow slog for many, many marginalized groups.  But somebody with more resources will get involved, right?  Somebody more qualified, somebody at another level.  Or have we, as voters, just been watching and waiting:  “Is it REALLY an emergency?  Somebody else more qualified than me will fix it.  I’m only one vote — it doesn’t really matter.  I live in a Blue/Red state so my vote won’t mean much.”  

But now there’s a lot of talk about your vote — about the integrity of voting.   Elections aren’t luxuries or expendable.  There was a reason why the men who get the credit for founding this nation put qualifications on the right to vote — they took it very, very seriously so only men who owned property could vote.  So seriously that we had to fight for laws to protect our franchise, because American elections have consequences.  As hard as it is, ignore the static designed to diminish your desire or will to vote.  Carefully vet the information you read about voting (including this tiny, voice-in-the-wilderness blog)

If you are reading this and you are an American citizen, I implore you — exercise your right to vote.  Check your registration and your state’s plan for casting your vote either in-person this November 3, 2020 or by mail by October 27, 2020  (the deadline to post your ballot to ensure a November 3 postmark).  We are NOT bystanders.  We are in a state of emergency and we have the capacity to act, to render aid to this democracy.  And you know what that guy, W. Churchill, says….

Many forms of Government have been tried, and will be tried in this world of sin and woe. No one pretends that democracy is perfect or all-wise. Indeed it has been said that democracy is the worst form of Government except for all those other forms that have been tried from time to time.… ‘  

This post is longer than my usual length — I try to keep it tight so you’ll read to the end.  If you’re still with me, thank you very much.  I’m trying very hard not to be cynical (which is my default, I’m afraid), but we have come too far to go back and there is still such a long way to go.  I wish us all well.  

Short Fiction

Little Pandemic Story #31


“……Mom, mom, mom, mommmmmmm!” From under the water it’s just an “mmmmmmmmm” sound through the bubbles.  Mom takes her time when you’re old enough to take a bath by yourself, to stay in the tub until you and the water turn gray and coldish, the soap a blob on the side of the tub.  ‘Cause she’s having her wine-time looking out the window over the sink.

When you finally get out and she wraps you in a towel she’ll notice you still have shampoo in your hair and she’ll make you stand under the warm shower again.  And you don’t complain because you’re both laughing in the steam as the shampoo foam spirals down the drain.





A Prayer

Help Me Get Ready To Make Things Happen

I read a newspaper every day — the kind that a person tosses out of a slow-rolling car,  onto  the driveway sausaged-wrapped in a plastic sleeve (that I save as an impromptu dog-poop bag). I usually read it while eating breakfast and I keep a pen nearby to do the crossword puzzles and on Sundays I make notes and circle quotes that grab me.  I have time to REALLY read the paper now — all the sections are pretty thin.  The editors are getting creative on the Sports pages especially because, well, you know.  Sometimes I break up the reading with some household chores so it can take me a whole day to read it.  I’d say I’m getting my money’s worth from this subscription.

Help Me Get Ready To Make Things Happen

This quote jumped out at me from a piece about a woman who is the outreach coordinator for a medical marijuana company.  She used it to describe the feeling she gets from listening to a pastor leading a church service that she’s listens to on the way to her job, which she works on Sundays.

There are a lot of people who are still working.  In many ways they are working more.  Their homes are their workplaces all day, even as they are also schools and sanctuaries.  When I think of it that way,  they are never not working.  And then there are people who are “unemployed” (meaning they are not receiving a paycheck for their labor).  They can think about work all the time as well.

The World feels distorted.   Or is it?  It’s been my own self-absorption that has kept it orderly and tidy.  It’s been on Fire since the beginning of Time with little pockets of peace here and there for some folks.  As usual, we humans crawling around today think we’ve come so far with our inventions, our technology.  But what I am seeing today are People.  Yes, they are using technology, but it’s to combat systemic racism, to support other People who are marching as a front line together.  I see the humanity of front-line healthcare workers who are taking care of the sick and frightened.  Yes, they also use technology’s tools, but their work is still very much hands-on (with gloves, masks and face shields).

And still it’s too easy to turn the page, to turn away from the suffering of People.  It’s the suffering that should bring us together.  For the past few months I’ve been sheltering at home and it’s been easy to think about change, but this prayer is germinating something, something to DO every day.  Write something, call someone, contribute time and/or money to further a group’s progress on behalf of People.

Every day, Help Me Get Ready To Make Things Happen”.




The Beauty of Diversion

It’s a strange time even for the introverts.  Other than going to the gym I lead a socially distant life organically.  But even I have noticed a couple of interesting things about the elasticity of time as I move through my never-really-changing day(s):

If I have to wonder when was the last time I took a shower, it’s time to take one NOW.

When I do the laundry and find I’m only washing two pairs of underwear in a week, there’s a problem.

When I start justifying the number of crossword puzzles I’m working on in a day, have I crossed a line?  According to the New York Times, no.  They have increased the puzzle page in recent weeks to give readers more of a distraction from, well, the news.

If I play enough songs from the the 80’s and put on a headband I can go back in time.  My time machine is fueled by cleaning out stuff.   WHOOOO!  I finally used up a six- year-old lip balm and tossed those old mascaras, because who needs make-up under these make-shift masks I wear to go grocery shopping?

The TV is off during the daylight hours — radio, too, since all of the “news” is about one topic.  But I experience a strange phenomenon as I go about my day.  There’s an elasticity to time.  I’m not working right now (at a paying job, at least) so the only structure to my day is around the household chores, and, truth be told, those chores aren’t very onerous.  We don’t have little children in the house to feed regularly or to teach  so there is just the passing of the hours.  The closest way I can describe the feeling is to say it reminds me of being a child.  Sometimes I have the feeling of five-year-old me:  that feeling of some larger authority  structuring my time —  like a parent calling me to the table, or to go with them on an errand because I am too small to be left alone at home.  And sometimes I feel like my  adolescent self —  old enough to be left to my own devices but without homework, or a car, or money.  Both were feelings of a strange kind of abdicated freedom.

There are a whole lot of people still working.   They are keeping civilization intact for the socially distant.  They are stocking shelves, delivering stuff, showing up for their shifts at hospitals, police stations, fire houses, restaurant kitchens, food banks.  They are creating diversions for kids, making us laugh and trying to alleviate loneliness.  Our days are long and all the same, but we have still have agency and some power to make choices, however small, to improve them.   The painted rock in this post photo was resting on a path I walked recently.  Somebody reaching out to all the passers-by:  choose beauty, choose to be happy. And remember, it will not always be this way.



Short Fiction

Bunny and Eddie’s Christmas Party

“Grandma, tell me again how you met first Grandpa Eddie at the office Christmas party.”  Grandma Bunny was always consistent in her telling, no nonsense, no embellishment.  She was a love-serious dame, and I’m a sucker for a true-love story.    

My grandmother had a thing for Eddies — two of her husbands were named Edward. I loved my first grandpa Eddie more than his replacement Eddie. Not that “Grandpa Eddie Two” was a bad guy, it was just that the first Eddie was the grandpa of my formative years when digging up worms and sharing giant cherry Slurpees were the highlights of my summer vacation.

“Well, it was really crowded at The Meadows.    I was the new hostess so I had to check the coats of the folks coming in for their Christmas parties,  and since I had never checked coats before, the line was very long.  Because you know the damn accountants are nothing if not prompt so everyone arrived at the same time. “

“And it was the kind of party that included the wives and girlfriends so every woman had a coat.   The few that had fur coats and stoles didn’t check them.  They only wore them a few times a year and didn’t trust the coat check girl to give them back the right coat.  And they wanted to show off a little, too, those snooty bitches.”

“I learned pretty quick that Jolly Gene had some god-damn jolly roving hands when I had to reach over the counter to take up the coats.  He liked to be up-front to kiss all the women and the asses of the big bosses so they’d come back for their kids’ sweet sixteen or their wives’ charity parties, ya know.”  

“So Grandpa Eddie was what we used to call an office boy because he wasn’t a college boy, ya know.  He’d bring the mail around the accounting firm and when it was quiet in the office he’d be studying because he was going to the night school.  He didn’t have a rich daddy to send him to college so after he got out of the army he took the GI Bill and worked while going to school. He used to say that I shoulda come to night school,  too.  He thought I was smart even if my own daddy didn’t seem to think so. That’s why your mom and auntie Eileen went to college — because Grandpa Eddie knew women were smart,  smarter than some men even.”  

“So there’s this long line of people waiting to check their coats, and I’m sweating running around with the coats and the coat room getting so hot.  The men are puffing on their nasty cigars and the smoke is starting to make me a little dizzy — I didn’t have lunch that day because I knew there was gonna be a private party and the staff could have a plate after the service and I was hoping for some of that shrimp cocktail.    It’s loud and I’m trying to keep up with giving the right coat check ticket to the right person, and when I turn around to hang up a coat there’s skinny Grandpa Eddie with his arms out and he’s handing me the coat check chit with one hand and scooping up the coat in my hand with the other.  So all I had to do was take the coat off the counter and turn around.  Nobody sent him to work the coat check — he was just there.  I don’t think I even noticed how good-looking he was,  THAT HAIR OF HIS!  I was just so relieved that I wasn’t gonna pass out in the coat check closet where Gene could get his jollies.”  

“We were a good team and when the coats started to slow down we started talking — ya know, back in the day we’d tease each other, but Grandpa Eddie was kinda serious.  I had brothers so I could really tease rough — but I took it easy on him.  I was smart enough to figure out that a guy like Grandpa Eddie was a real catch.   You know,  I chased him until he caught ME.  But that’s another story, because in this story we didn’t even know each other yet.”  

“The music was starting to get louder in the dining room and I told him I was doing OK now so he could go in to the party with his company,  and he suggested he’d stay in the coat check for me if I want to run to the ladies’ and freshen up before I had to wait in the closet all night.  So I think, his mother must have raised him right or he’s got sisters who work on their feet — and you know Auntie Stella and Auntie Roseanne, so I was right again ”  

“So I come outta the ladies, what, five minutes later?   I get to the half-door of the coat check and there’s Jolly Gene laid out on the floor and Grandpa Eddie standing there looking at his hands — shocked, opening and closing them.   Seems that Gene didn’t know I was in the bathroom and went into the coat check closet with his grabby hands and got a face full of Grandpa Eddie’s five fingers instead.”  

At this point in the narration Grandma would shake her fist and the Bakelite bracelets on her bony wrist would clack together — summoning the righteousness of Grandpa Eddie being groped among the smoky and perfumed coats,  and then she’d lean over and say with conspiratorial wink….

“As cool as could be, I open the lower door,  grab my coat off the back of the stool, put my hand through Grandpa Eddie’s arm and pull him out of Green Meadows.  We went and got hamburgers, and who the hell knows what happened to Jolly Gene.  Until the day my Eddie died we’d drive past Green Meadows, look at each other and just smile.”